How To Become An Exceptional Birth Pro II

life planner organized birth proLife Planning 101 Part Five

We’ve already covered why planning and scheduling our goals into the reality are the cornerstone skill needed to build a remarkable life—professional and personally.

Then we looked at all the benefits planning is going to bring into your life. If you don’t already have a planner, go out and treat yourself to a beautifully designed planner and make sure it has a monthly AND a weekly section.

Socrates famously said: “the unobserved life is not worth living.”

Before life-planning, I used to have (what I now realize were) quarterly melt-downs where I would yell: “I hate my life!” I’ll never forget the first time that phrase came out of my six-year-old’s mouth. That was the day I decided to take total ownership of my life.

Life-account assessment is about observing your life—letting it speak in order to build a life worth living.

It will take an investment of time for you to learn this new skill of life-planning and scheduling, but it will save you countless hours a week, every week, for the rest of your life. More importantly, it will become a basic formula you can intuitively apply to build a remarkable life—no matter how you define success. The most complex goal you have is still solved with the basic formula!

Here’s the formula:

  1. List your current life accounts
  2. Identify the specific action steps required for each life account to be ‘positive’
  3. Schedule these action steps at a monthly, weekly, and daily level
  4. Review/adjust your life-plan

We’re starting, obviously, with step one. The purpose of this step is to allow your life to speak. You’ve already spent a lifetime making goals and choices—choices that you are committed to and are actively cultivating. The goal of this step is to bring awareness to what you already have going on. (Get ready to be absolutely shocked.) By the time you’re done with this exercise you will be able to answer:

  • Is your time, energy, and attention aligned with your values?
  • Are you who you want to be in each sphere of your life?
  • What are the balances on your ‘life accounts’? Are there sufficient ‘funds’ of resources, time, energy, and attention to keep each account in the positive or are they over-drawn?

This terminology of ‘life-accounts’ is inspired by Michael Hyatt’s book Living Forward.

The practice of drafting out your life-accounts will “provide the clarity you need to articulate a vision for your life—your whole life—and develop a plan for getting to a better destination. It’s all about being fully awake to the realities of our personal and professional worlds and using that fresh level of awareness to make better decisions and tell better stories with our lives.”

Most people have 5 to 12 life-accounts that branch off of the three categories of being, relating, and doing.

Being Life-Accounts:

Your being accounts are categories of how you relate to, and care for yourself. Common accounts could include:

  1. Spirit
  2. Soul/Heart
  3. Body (eat, move, sleep)
  4. Intellect/Mind

Relating Life-Accounts

Your relating life-accounts are categories of how you relate to others. Common accounts could include:

  1. Marriage
  2. Kids
  3. Friends
  4. Extended family
  5. Community (involvement in one of your child’s programs or schools, a faith community, or a support group etc.)

Doing Life-Accounts

Your being accounts are categories of things you do; common accounts could include:

  1. Job
  2. Creative projects
  3. Household responsibilities
  4. Hobbies
  5. Areas of service/contribution/volunteering

It’s been a while since this exercise transformed my life, but I’ll still never forget how amazed I was when I listed out my life-accounts in order of importance and discovered how profoundly my actual life (time, energy, attention, and resources) did NOT align with what would say that I valued. It was immediately obvious that I had been taking the bliss in my marriage for granted, and was allowing my husband to do most of the investing into the account.

The first adjustment I made was to set up a re-occurring date night which felt unnecessary at first, but eventually became invaluable to us. Then we realized that because of how our lives were accelerating because of our new life-planning skills that we spent nearly the whole ‘date’ talking about management strategies for our lives.

So we added an early morning breakfast meeting to plan our lives together and made a new ‘no details’ rule for date night! It was just the beginning of a level of partnership and intimacy that I could never have imagined.

Assess your life-accounts as a non-passionate observer. Have a disposition of curiosity, not judgment and your observations will be more truthful.

This is an exercise in self-awareness; we are measuring to know ourselves better. We are measuring to see if we are actually spending our life on what we value. Science has also confirmed that the things we measure are the things we improve.

I’m sure you’ve heard the famous quote: “Men never plan to be failures; they simply fail to plan to be successful.” But it’s so true! I hope that this simple exercise in awareness can serve you to identify just how full your life really is! It will give you a check in on if you are being the person you want to be in the core areas of life and perhaps.

I’d like to close by giving a gentle reminder that our life accounts are just like bank accounts. You can’t withdrawal what you haven’t put in. Be careful when you plan your business that you actually have ‘funds’ in the account to be able to give that—and that you’re not taking from other accounts.

For years I ‘spent’ my family’s resources, not just financially—I pulled from my own health and physiology, the goodwill from my marriage—my children’s well-being. Just like banks, in life you can get slapped with fines for over-drawn accounts that can stack and bury you alive.

My best advice as someone who is on my own journey to be free to give is to really do this exercise. Really do it. Sit down and look at your life accounts in humility and admit where you are. And if you’re in comprehensive debt—don’t build more, offer more, start more, until you bring alignment in your life to your values. That will probably mean bringing order and care through very humble tasks. Your foundation is made from doing the simple things well.

So remember, list out your life accounts. Then ask:

Is your time, energy, and attention aligned with your values?

Are you who you want to be in each sphere of your life?

What are the balances on your ‘life accounts’?

Are there sufficient ‘funds’ of resources, time, energy, and attention to keep each account in the positive or are they over-drawn?

I’d love to hear your discoveries. Leave me a comment below and share your ‘ah-ha!’ moments with me.

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Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 3 hours ago

I love this article: Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition. They found that the majority (69%) of the respondents reported no negative effects from placental consumption. The majority of mothers reported no negative effects. (The single most cited negative effect was an unpleasant taste or smell.) The most cited benefit was an improved mood; the second was increased energy and decreased fatigue.[1] While benefits like “improved mood” are hard to quantify—mothers are consistently reporting this, calling their placenta doses “happy pills,” and noting that even their small children can tell when they skip pills.

Are you a spreader of placenta happy pills!? Get this awesome tee shirt from Phanganer on etsy. Oh and go read this article!

Jodi Selander , Allison Cantor , Sharon M. Young & Daniel C. Benyshek (2013): Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition, 52:2, 93-115

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 4 hours ago

During pregnancy, the placenta is responsible for the synthesis and secretion of many hormones, a few of which include: oxytocin, prostaglandin, progesterone, estrogens, androstenedione, dehydroepiandrosterone, human placental lactogen, human chorionic gonadotropin, placental growth hormone, and corticotrophin-releasing hormone.[1],[2],[3] It truly is a tree of life to the unborn.

[1] Di Santo, S., A. Malek, R. Sager, A. C. Andres, and H. Schneider. 2003. Trophoblast Viability in Perfused Term Placental Tissue and Explant Cultures Limited to 7–24 Hours. Placenta 24 (8–9): 882–894.
[2] Gude, N. M., C. T. Roberts, B. Kalionis, and R. G. King. 2004. Growth and Function of the Normal Human Placenta. Thrombosis Research 114 (5–6): 397–407
[3] Hall, C. St. G., T. E. James, C. Goodyer, C. Branchaud, H. Guyda, and C. J. P. Giroud. 1977. Short Term Tissue Culture of Human Midterm and Term Placenta: Parameters of Hormonogenesis.
Steroids 30 (4): 569–580.

Etsy Art by MignonandMignon
https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/placenta-encapsulator-certification-course/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 6 hours ago

Our programs are designed to be as comprehensive as they are concise; first because they are designed with busy mothers in mind, secondly because our end goal is successful encapsulation services being provided to local families while you are able to sustainably provide for your own. This goal manifests in our course offerings in dynamic ways that will only expand. We holistically invest into your business training, and have ‘all inclusive’ business assets that are designed to bring increase and success to all your business offerings as a birth professional.

Discover:
Lifetime Access to the Encapsulation Certification online course even after your monthly payments end.
Legal/Contract Swipe Files and full training with legal training.
Email Scripts Swipe File: proven responses to encapsulation clients’ most common questions and objections.
Social Media Assets: 25+ designer social posts with detailed content scripts.
Social Media Content Planner: a twelve-month, birth-themed social post content planner.
Premium Done-For-You 25-piece Branding Kit with all branded assets needed for a professional placenta business launch.
Professional Media Assets Package with 5 placenta photos and 4 art prints.
A Brilliant Events Pass to any of Brilliant Birth Academy’s online events and summits.
A 40% off Brilliant Insider Coupon Code to use on ALL future course purchases with us.
Personal Coaching by the course directors; each course comes with multiple 60-minute clarity coaching opportunities.
And much more here: https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/become-placenta-encapsulator/placenta-encapsulator-re-certification-training/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 7 hours ago

"When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta."

https://www.facebook.com/2LifeDoula/photos/a.353579378086602/2221831574594697/?type=3&theater

Immediate skin-to-skin and breastfeeding is a fundamental part of birth. 🤱

When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta.

It also lowers the risks of haemorrhaging.
Women's bodies are amazing. 💫
Words and #Repost @your.sacred.space
・・・
Beautiful 📸 by @olivejuicecreations
#oxytocin
#thirdstage
#placentadelivery
#naturallabour
#naturalbirth

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 10 hours ago

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. As a midwife, Bettina has developed a very natural view of life and...

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 13 hours ago

At Brilliant Birth Academy, we stand for honoring birth professionals. We see ourselves as a parent institution and like most parents, we define our success by the success of those we’re investing into–our students! That passion translates into practical ways we're different:
No arbitrary deadlines for finishing your certification.
No fees for retaking your final exam.
No ‘reactivation’ fees after lapsed access.
No yearly fees for ‘certification maintenance’.
No hidden or additional fees ever.
Discover our placenta encapsulation re-certification offer here: http://www.encapsulationcertificationtraining.com/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 14 hours ago

Ok I'm obsessed with this company. So beautiful.

Congratulations on winning our necklace in the @mommycon Mother’s Day Giveaway!
.
#Repost @rbtznm with @get_repost
・・・
😍😍 The last of my @mommycon Mother’s Day haul has arrived 🎉 @milkandhoneybreastmilkjewelry worked with me to create a beautiful and meaningful necklace, even without breastmilk. These colored resin “honeycomb cells” represent my daughters birthdates 💙💜💙💜 and the custom chain length makes this a piece I can wear every day of the year. Maria and Meghan were a pleasure to work with, highly recommend if you’re looking for some sentimental jewelry. Thank you!! 😘 😘 (Not an ad!!)

Brilliant Birth Academy

2 days 7 minutes ago

Many organs that have filtration abilities in the body, most notably liver is regularly and historically eaten as a particularly nutritious food. The placenta is a protective filter. It keeps out most bacteria but doesn’t have the ability to filter out viruses, drugs, or alcohol. The chorionic membrane is impenetrable to some molecular-weight drugs and toxins. The placenta also passes on the mother’s antibodies to the baby in order to keep the baby healthy for several months after birth. If the mother has acquired a natural immunity to a virus or disease, the antibodies that her body has created will be transferred to the baby via the placenta. This is the traditionally understood concept of ‘herd immunity’ operating naturally.

Brilliant Birth Academy

2 days 2 hours ago

Ha! The struggle is real! BBA welcomes everyone but it was designed for moms with full, beautiful lives. Our students report that our certification courses take less time than others—and not because we’re short on details.

We’ve intentionally condensed the presentation time of every course and put all the details into downloads and swipe files so you can get into service sooner (and because we’re imagining you trying to make progress at 6am on your cert with toddler fingers already reaching for you under the door). Discover our courses today. https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/p/B0yLduAgs3-/

thanks theurbanumi for the laugh!

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Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 3 hours ago

I love this article: Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition. They found that the majority (69%) of the respondents reported no negative effects from placental consumption. The majority of mothers reported no negative effects. (The single most cited negative effect was an unpleasant taste or smell.) The most cited benefit was an improved mood; the second was increased energy and decreased fatigue.[1] While benefits like “improved mood” are hard to quantify—mothers are consistently reporting this, calling their placenta doses “happy pills,” and noting that even their small children can tell when they skip pills.

Are you a spreader of placenta happy pills!? Get this awesome tee shirt from Phanganer on etsy. Oh and go read this article!

Jodi Selander , Allison Cantor , Sharon M. Young & Daniel C. Benyshek (2013): Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition, 52:2, 93-115

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 4 hours ago

During pregnancy, the placenta is responsible for the synthesis and secretion of many hormones, a few of which include: oxytocin, prostaglandin, progesterone, estrogens, androstenedione, dehydroepiandrosterone, human placental lactogen, human chorionic gonadotropin, placental growth hormone, and corticotrophin-releasing hormone.[1],[2],[3] It truly is a tree of life to the unborn.

[1] Di Santo, S., A. Malek, R. Sager, A. C. Andres, and H. Schneider. 2003. Trophoblast Viability in Perfused Term Placental Tissue and Explant Cultures Limited to 7–24 Hours. Placenta 24 (8–9): 882–894.
[2] Gude, N. M., C. T. Roberts, B. Kalionis, and R. G. King. 2004. Growth and Function of the Normal Human Placenta. Thrombosis Research 114 (5–6): 397–407
[3] Hall, C. St. G., T. E. James, C. Goodyer, C. Branchaud, H. Guyda, and C. J. P. Giroud. 1977. Short Term Tissue Culture of Human Midterm and Term Placenta: Parameters of Hormonogenesis.
Steroids 30 (4): 569–580.

Etsy Art by MignonandMignon
https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/placenta-encapsulator-certification-course/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 6 hours ago

Our programs are designed to be as comprehensive as they are concise; first because they are designed with busy mothers in mind, secondly because our end goal is successful encapsulation services being provided to local families while you are able to sustainably provide for your own. This goal manifests in our course offerings in dynamic ways that will only expand. We holistically invest into your business training, and have ‘all inclusive’ business assets that are designed to bring increase and success to all your business offerings as a birth professional.

Discover:
Lifetime Access to the Encapsulation Certification online course even after your monthly payments end.
Legal/Contract Swipe Files and full training with legal training.
Email Scripts Swipe File: proven responses to encapsulation clients’ most common questions and objections.
Social Media Assets: 25+ designer social posts with detailed content scripts.
Social Media Content Planner: a twelve-month, birth-themed social post content planner.
Premium Done-For-You 25-piece Branding Kit with all branded assets needed for a professional placenta business launch.
Professional Media Assets Package with 5 placenta photos and 4 art prints.
A Brilliant Events Pass to any of Brilliant Birth Academy’s online events and summits.
A 40% off Brilliant Insider Coupon Code to use on ALL future course purchases with us.
Personal Coaching by the course directors; each course comes with multiple 60-minute clarity coaching opportunities.
And much more here: https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/become-placenta-encapsulator/placenta-encapsulator-re-certification-training/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 7 hours ago

"When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta."

https://www.facebook.com/2LifeDoula/photos/a.353579378086602/2221831574594697/?type=3&theater

Immediate skin-to-skin and breastfeeding is a fundamental part of birth. 🤱

When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta.

It also lowers the risks of haemorrhaging.
Women's bodies are amazing. 💫
Words and #Repost @your.sacred.space
・・・
Beautiful 📸 by @olivejuicecreations
#oxytocin
#thirdstage
#placentadelivery
#naturallabour
#naturalbirth

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 10 hours ago

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. As a midwife, Bettina has developed a very natural view of life and...

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 13 hours ago

At Brilliant Birth Academy, we stand for honoring birth professionals. We see ourselves as a parent institution and like most parents, we define our success by the success of those we’re investing into–our students! That passion translates into practical ways we're different:
No arbitrary deadlines for finishing your certification.
No fees for retaking your final exam.
No ‘reactivation’ fees after lapsed access.
No yearly fees for ‘certification maintenance’.
No hidden or additional fees ever.
Discover our placenta encapsulation re-certification offer here: http://www.encapsulationcertificationtraining.com/

Brilliant Birth Academy

1 day 14 hours ago

Ok I'm obsessed with this company. So beautiful.

Congratulations on winning our necklace in the @mommycon Mother’s Day Giveaway!
.
#Repost @rbtznm with @get_repost
・・・
😍😍 The last of my @mommycon Mother’s Day haul has arrived 🎉 @milkandhoneybreastmilkjewelry worked with me to create a beautiful and meaningful necklace, even without breastmilk. These colored resin “honeycomb cells” represent my daughters birthdates 💙💜💙💜 and the custom chain length makes this a piece I can wear every day of the year. Maria and Meghan were a pleasure to work with, highly recommend if you’re looking for some sentimental jewelry. Thank you!! 😘 😘 (Not an ad!!)

Brilliant Birth Academy

2 days 7 minutes ago

Many organs that have filtration abilities in the body, most notably liver is regularly and historically eaten as a particularly nutritious food. The placenta is a protective filter. It keeps out most bacteria but doesn’t have the ability to filter out viruses, drugs, or alcohol. The chorionic membrane is impenetrable to some molecular-weight drugs and toxins. The placenta also passes on the mother’s antibodies to the baby in order to keep the baby healthy for several months after birth. If the mother has acquired a natural immunity to a virus or disease, the antibodies that her body has created will be transferred to the baby via the placenta. This is the traditionally understood concept of ‘herd immunity’ operating naturally.

Brilliant Birth Academy

2 days 2 hours ago

Ha! The struggle is real! BBA welcomes everyone but it was designed for moms with full, beautiful lives. Our students report that our certification courses take less time than others—and not because we’re short on details.

We’ve intentionally condensed the presentation time of every course and put all the details into downloads and swipe files so you can get into service sooner (and because we’re imagining you trying to make progress at 6am on your cert with toddler fingers already reaching for you under the door). Discover our courses today. https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/p/B0yLduAgs3-/

thanks theurbanumi for the laugh!