Confessions of a Disorganized Birth Pro

Life Planning 101 Part One

Birth is a sacred and fleeting moment of time and showing up with consistent excellence for the challenges may require a higher degree of planning and organization skill than many of us have tackled before. But there’s another thing at play for many of us: people who self select to care for families at the time of birth tend to score quite low in the personality trait of conscientiousness.

There’s a major function of personality (just like introversion/extroversion) but it’s called conscientiousness. It’s a measure of dutifulness and reliability.

People high in conscientiousness have an awareness of what is needed and the detailed-oriented thinking to meet needs.

They love order, being told what to do, and thrive in predictable roles they can carefully plan for. Big surprise: many birth pros are VERY low in conscientiousness–myself included.

For us, planning is a must-have skill if we are going to become truly dynamic and mature into our potential. If you have big dreams but are low in conscientiousness, you may have some of the same problems that kept me in chaos for years.

Do any of these these confessions feel familiar to you?

  1. I have the same re-occurring problems, crisis’s, and limitations over and over. My phone wasn’t charged, or it was on silent, I was late, or I forgot to put the kid’s important things out before the birth I was hoping would last less than 6 hours but went for 26. Again.
  2. My life doesn’t actually reflect my values. I don’t bring the presence or energy to my birth work I had envisioned offering; I’m also not hitting the financial goals I assumed were possible. The truth is I have a lot of daily practices that are out of sync with my vision.
  3. I tend to not finish things that are meaningful to me. There are more… ‘I quit that’ than ‘I finished that’. Because I’m so disappointed with my production, I don’t have any sacred spaces in my life where I don’t work on my birth business. I work nights, weekends, and on vacation (that’s ‘Dad’s home! prime time’).
  4. I say the phrase: “I hate my life.” Even if I somehow accomplished what I want in life, the work lifestyle I’m in currently would likely land me at the end of my life with feeling like I didn’t actually enjoy my own life that much; I wasn’t very happy. See above point.
  5. I have general hopes for the future but couldn’t actually tell you how I plan to get there. The older I get, the more those business, home, travel, family dreams get pushed into the nebulous future rather than materializing like I thought they would at this point.
  6. I don’t have a planner/calendar/organizer I use regularly. I may have a family appointment/dinner calendar but I don’t plan/write/schedule out what’s important for me. I’m not currently (actually) materializing a dream that’s big enough to require a plan, a strategy, a schedule.
  7. I don’t have anyone else working with me on my goals—there’s no vision pulling multiple people together with an excitement of ‘let’s do this!’
  8. I have chronically unmet needs: and not just in my birth business. I feel like I don’t have the capacity to consistently meet the core needs for myself, my clients, or my family. My life accounts financially, relationally, energetically are overdrawn.
  9. I have chronic excess: debt, weight, clutter, work.

No matter what you’re staring down in your life circumstances you always have one fundamental choice—a choice that all our behaviors grow out of. That choice is whether we’re ultimately going to be creative or reactive in life.

Those two words are the same letters, just re-ordered.

In “The Path of Least Resistance Learning to Become the Creative Force in Your Own Life” Robert Frit writes: “Without making the fundamental choice to be the predominant creative force in your life, no matter what you do to attempt to benefit yourself or enhance your life, you will merely be finding more sophisticated ways of responding to circumstances.”

A creative starts the whole creative process by creating a plan. A coherent, realistic, written down, scheduled, plan. A plan is the cornerstone of a creative life full of intention, focus, and being purpose and passion driven rather than drifting through life on the currents of circumstances to a dismal destination.

This series of blog posts are all about becoming a master ‘life-planner’ who uses the very simple yet powerful tools of planning and scheduling in a specific formula designed to reach any goal.

Learning to be a life-planner is one of the most valuable skills you could learn in your life. The reason is obvious. If I asked you, ‘what’s 5 x 5’, you or your child could immediately answer. But if I asked ‘what 1273 x 82 is’ you couldn’t answer unless you knew the formula, the steps, the rules of how to solve a multiplication question.

Life is the same way. You can build a small life full of 5 x 5 equations without life-planning. The goals are small and the pathways are obvious.

But if you want to build a remarkable life full of extraordinary experiences, creative accomplishments, thriving relationships, and the joy of making a significant contribution to the birth field, then you need to know how to set and achieve goals—the essence of life-planning.

The formula for goal achievement is the same if you’re trying to do the basics (get out of debt, lose weight, fulfill your commitments to your birth clients) or if you’ve progressed to writing a birth book, sailing with your children to South America to work at a maternal clinic for the summer—whatever! The complex goal is still solved with the basic formula. More in the next post.

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Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 22 hours ago

I love this article: Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition. They found that the majority (69%) of the respondents reported no negative effects from placental consumption. The majority of mothers reported no negative effects. (The single most cited negative effect was an unpleasant taste or smell.) The most cited benefit was an improved mood; the second was increased energy and decreased fatigue.[1] While benefits like “improved mood” are hard to quantify—mothers are consistently reporting this, calling their placenta doses “happy pills,” and noting that even their small children can tell when they skip pills.

Are you a spreader of placenta happy pills!? Get this awesome tee shirt from Phanganer on etsy. Oh and go read this article!

Jodi Selander , Allison Cantor , Sharon M. Young & Daniel C. Benyshek (2013): Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition, 52:2, 93-115

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 23 hours ago

During pregnancy, the placenta is responsible for the synthesis and secretion of many hormones, a few of which include: oxytocin, prostaglandin, progesterone, estrogens, androstenedione, dehydroepiandrosterone, human placental lactogen, human chorionic gonadotropin, placental growth hormone, and corticotrophin-releasing hormone.[1],[2],[3] It truly is a tree of life to the unborn.

[1] Di Santo, S., A. Malek, R. Sager, A. C. Andres, and H. Schneider. 2003. Trophoblast Viability in Perfused Term Placental Tissue and Explant Cultures Limited to 7–24 Hours. Placenta 24 (8–9): 882–894.
[2] Gude, N. M., C. T. Roberts, B. Kalionis, and R. G. King. 2004. Growth and Function of the Normal Human Placenta. Thrombosis Research 114 (5–6): 397–407
[3] Hall, C. St. G., T. E. James, C. Goodyer, C. Branchaud, H. Guyda, and C. J. P. Giroud. 1977. Short Term Tissue Culture of Human Midterm and Term Placenta: Parameters of Hormonogenesis.
Steroids 30 (4): 569–580.

Etsy Art by MignonandMignon
https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/placenta-encapsulator-certification-course/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Our programs are designed to be as comprehensive as they are concise; first because they are designed with busy mothers in mind, secondly because our end goal is successful encapsulation services being provided to local families while you are able to sustainably provide for your own. This goal manifests in our course offerings in dynamic ways that will only expand. We holistically invest into your business training, and have ‘all inclusive’ business assets that are designed to bring increase and success to all your business offerings as a birth professional.

Discover:
Lifetime Access to the Encapsulation Certification online course even after your monthly payments end.
Legal/Contract Swipe Files and full training with legal training.
Email Scripts Swipe File: proven responses to encapsulation clients’ most common questions and objections.
Social Media Assets: 25+ designer social posts with detailed content scripts.
Social Media Content Planner: a twelve-month, birth-themed social post content planner.
Premium Done-For-You 25-piece Branding Kit with all branded assets needed for a professional placenta business launch.
Professional Media Assets Package with 5 placenta photos and 4 art prints.
A Brilliant Events Pass to any of Brilliant Birth Academy’s online events and summits.
A 40% off Brilliant Insider Coupon Code to use on ALL future course purchases with us.
Personal Coaching by the course directors; each course comes with multiple 60-minute clarity coaching opportunities.
And much more here: https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/become-placenta-encapsulator/placenta-encapsulator-re-certification-training/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

"When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta."

https://www.facebook.com/2LifeDoula/photos/a.353579378086602/2221831574594697/?type=3&theater

Immediate skin-to-skin and breastfeeding is a fundamental part of birth. 🤱

When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta.

It also lowers the risks of haemorrhaging.
Women's bodies are amazing. 💫
Words and #Repost @your.sacred.space
・・・
Beautiful 📸 by @olivejuicecreations
#oxytocin
#thirdstage
#placentadelivery
#naturallabour
#naturalbirth

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. As a midwife, Bettina has developed a very natural view of life and...

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

At Brilliant Birth Academy, we stand for honoring birth professionals. We see ourselves as a parent institution and like most parents, we define our success by the success of those we’re investing into–our students! That passion translates into practical ways we're different:
No arbitrary deadlines for finishing your certification.
No fees for retaking your final exam.
No ‘reactivation’ fees after lapsed access.
No yearly fees for ‘certification maintenance’.
No hidden or additional fees ever.
Discover our placenta encapsulation re-certification offer here: http://www.encapsulationcertificationtraining.com/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Ok I'm obsessed with this company. So beautiful.

Congratulations on winning our necklace in the @mommycon Mother’s Day Giveaway!
.
#Repost @rbtznm with @get_repost
・・・
😍😍 The last of my @mommycon Mother’s Day haul has arrived 🎉 @milkandhoneybreastmilkjewelry worked with me to create a beautiful and meaningful necklace, even without breastmilk. These colored resin “honeycomb cells” represent my daughters birthdates 💙💜💙💜 and the custom chain length makes this a piece I can wear every day of the year. Maria and Meghan were a pleasure to work with, highly recommend if you’re looking for some sentimental jewelry. Thank you!! 😘 😘 (Not an ad!!)

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Many organs that have filtration abilities in the body, most notably liver is regularly and historically eaten as a particularly nutritious food. The placenta is a protective filter. It keeps out most bacteria but doesn’t have the ability to filter out viruses, drugs, or alcohol. The chorionic membrane is impenetrable to some molecular-weight drugs and toxins. The placenta also passes on the mother’s antibodies to the baby in order to keep the baby healthy for several months after birth. If the mother has acquired a natural immunity to a virus or disease, the antibodies that her body has created will be transferred to the baby via the placenta. This is the traditionally understood concept of ‘herd immunity’ operating naturally.

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Ha! The struggle is real! BBA welcomes everyone but it was designed for moms with full, beautiful lives. Our students report that our certification courses take less time than others—and not because we’re short on details.

We’ve intentionally condensed the presentation time of every course and put all the details into downloads and swipe files so you can get into service sooner (and because we’re imagining you trying to make progress at 6am on your cert with toddler fingers already reaching for you under the door). Discover our courses today. https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/p/B0yLduAgs3-/

thanks theurbanumi for the laugh!

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Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 22 hours ago

I love this article: Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition. They found that the majority (69%) of the respondents reported no negative effects from placental consumption. The majority of mothers reported no negative effects. (The single most cited negative effect was an unpleasant taste or smell.) The most cited benefit was an improved mood; the second was increased energy and decreased fatigue.[1] While benefits like “improved mood” are hard to quantify—mothers are consistently reporting this, calling their placenta doses “happy pills,” and noting that even their small children can tell when they skip pills.

Are you a spreader of placenta happy pills!? Get this awesome tee shirt from Phanganer on etsy. Oh and go read this article!

Jodi Selander , Allison Cantor , Sharon M. Young & Daniel C. Benyshek (2013): Human Maternal Placentophagy: A Survey Of Self-Reported Motivations And Experiences Associated With Placenta Consumption, Ecology Of Food And Nutrition, 52:2, 93-115

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 23 hours ago

During pregnancy, the placenta is responsible for the synthesis and secretion of many hormones, a few of which include: oxytocin, prostaglandin, progesterone, estrogens, androstenedione, dehydroepiandrosterone, human placental lactogen, human chorionic gonadotropin, placental growth hormone, and corticotrophin-releasing hormone.[1],[2],[3] It truly is a tree of life to the unborn.

[1] Di Santo, S., A. Malek, R. Sager, A. C. Andres, and H. Schneider. 2003. Trophoblast Viability in Perfused Term Placental Tissue and Explant Cultures Limited to 7–24 Hours. Placenta 24 (8–9): 882–894.
[2] Gude, N. M., C. T. Roberts, B. Kalionis, and R. G. King. 2004. Growth and Function of the Normal Human Placenta. Thrombosis Research 114 (5–6): 397–407
[3] Hall, C. St. G., T. E. James, C. Goodyer, C. Branchaud, H. Guyda, and C. J. P. Giroud. 1977. Short Term Tissue Culture of Human Midterm and Term Placenta: Parameters of Hormonogenesis.
Steroids 30 (4): 569–580.

Etsy Art by MignonandMignon
https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/placenta-encapsulator-certification-course/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Our programs are designed to be as comprehensive as they are concise; first because they are designed with busy mothers in mind, secondly because our end goal is successful encapsulation services being provided to local families while you are able to sustainably provide for your own. This goal manifests in our course offerings in dynamic ways that will only expand. We holistically invest into your business training, and have ‘all inclusive’ business assets that are designed to bring increase and success to all your business offerings as a birth professional.

Discover:
Lifetime Access to the Encapsulation Certification online course even after your monthly payments end.
Legal/Contract Swipe Files and full training with legal training.
Email Scripts Swipe File: proven responses to encapsulation clients’ most common questions and objections.
Social Media Assets: 25+ designer social posts with detailed content scripts.
Social Media Content Planner: a twelve-month, birth-themed social post content planner.
Premium Done-For-You 25-piece Branding Kit with all branded assets needed for a professional placenta business launch.
Professional Media Assets Package with 5 placenta photos and 4 art prints.
A Brilliant Events Pass to any of Brilliant Birth Academy’s online events and summits.
A 40% off Brilliant Insider Coupon Code to use on ALL future course purchases with us.
Personal Coaching by the course directors; each course comes with multiple 60-minute clarity coaching opportunities.
And much more here: https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/become-placenta-encapsulator/placenta-encapsulator-re-certification-training/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

"When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta."

https://www.facebook.com/2LifeDoula/photos/a.353579378086602/2221831574594697/?type=3&theater

Immediate skin-to-skin and breastfeeding is a fundamental part of birth. 🤱

When the baby is breastfed, the skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, facilitating the natural delivery of the placenta.

It also lowers the risks of haemorrhaging.
Women's bodies are amazing. 💫
Words and #Repost @your.sacred.space
・・・
Beautiful 📸 by @olivejuicecreations
#oxytocin
#thirdstage
#placentadelivery
#naturallabour
#naturalbirth

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. As a midwife, Bettina has developed a very natural view of life and...

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

At Brilliant Birth Academy, we stand for honoring birth professionals. We see ourselves as a parent institution and like most parents, we define our success by the success of those we’re investing into–our students! That passion translates into practical ways we're different:
No arbitrary deadlines for finishing your certification.
No fees for retaking your final exam.
No ‘reactivation’ fees after lapsed access.
No yearly fees for ‘certification maintenance’.
No hidden or additional fees ever.
Discover our placenta encapsulation re-certification offer here: http://www.encapsulationcertificationtraining.com/

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Ok I'm obsessed with this company. So beautiful.

Congratulations on winning our necklace in the @mommycon Mother’s Day Giveaway!
.
#Repost @rbtznm with @get_repost
・・・
😍😍 The last of my @mommycon Mother’s Day haul has arrived 🎉 @milkandhoneybreastmilkjewelry worked with me to create a beautiful and meaningful necklace, even without breastmilk. These colored resin “honeycomb cells” represent my daughters birthdates 💙💜💙💜 and the custom chain length makes this a piece I can wear every day of the year. Maria and Meghan were a pleasure to work with, highly recommend if you’re looking for some sentimental jewelry. Thank you!! 😘 😘 (Not an ad!!)

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Many organs that have filtration abilities in the body, most notably liver is regularly and historically eaten as a particularly nutritious food. The placenta is a protective filter. It keeps out most bacteria but doesn’t have the ability to filter out viruses, drugs, or alcohol. The chorionic membrane is impenetrable to some molecular-weight drugs and toxins. The placenta also passes on the mother’s antibodies to the baby in order to keep the baby healthy for several months after birth. If the mother has acquired a natural immunity to a virus or disease, the antibodies that her body has created will be transferred to the baby via the placenta. This is the traditionally understood concept of ‘herd immunity’ operating naturally.

Brilliant Birth Academy

4 weeks 1 day ago

Ha! The struggle is real! BBA welcomes everyone but it was designed for moms with full, beautiful lives. Our students report that our certification courses take less time than others—and not because we’re short on details.

We’ve intentionally condensed the presentation time of every course and put all the details into downloads and swipe files so you can get into service sooner (and because we’re imagining you trying to make progress at 6am on your cert with toddler fingers already reaching for you under the door). Discover our courses today. https://brilliantbirthacademy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/p/B0yLduAgs3-/

thanks theurbanumi for the laugh!